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I met a man online I have had for a lover for 3. My relationship ended almost 2 years ago my ex left me for someone 25 years younger, I had the best airbag a girl could have as an amazing lover, friend, confidant, without that relationship I would have crumbled. I have also been seeing other men and have a few profiles. I have dated over 30 men and have chatted super selectively with probably over a hundred. During the past year I have noticed a change and it is men not wanting to meet but chat, one guy I met I had synergy with he is single and a little younger — 49 and I am We went for dinner and got along extremely well he is single with two young children staying with him two nights a week, we seemed to be attracted to one another.
We kissed at the end of the night, a rare good kisser, very polite no tongue thrusting like many of the men I kissed. We speak on the phone but only if I phone him which might be once a month. I find the whole thing perplexing. I have since been speaking with about 12 men and all started with messages on dating sites, with them initiating, then wanting me to use whatsapp and that is the only place we supposedly date.
I find it annoying and juvenile, I want to hear the sound of the mans voice, the tone and timbre and speak for a while by phone. The whatsapp dates never lead to meeting the man, it is perplexing. I too have almost the same situation was in a relationship for over 22 years. Have been dating for over 4 years.
It used to be you swiped , text the talked and finally met. Once awhile the guy would have older pics and then you met and they look nothing like their pics. Good morning, goodnight and then the disappearing act. Something is wrong. Married , woman or even a teen.
I would love to leave the online dating world. Just do not know where to Meet someone. Im I had the same with a women, why do they do this?
My fiance is always on the internet, chatting with different women, having dates with them. Want to get out of this relationship. Mine too lol. Here is one for the books.
Just want to play the word game. And three different guys…so far all obviously younger than myself by six years and more want to get to know me better by me getting on Whats App or something like that. anyone got a solution?.
I am talking to guys online and they almost immediately ask for whatsapp id. i explain politiely that i want to keep talking on the app and that i m interested in them, and they without excption so far just go away. i dont want my day intruded on by whastapp messages from guys I havent met I want to keep whatsappfor real relationships with people I have actually met!.
Am i being unreaasonable? Same thing! I met a guy on Tinder who wanted to WhatsApp endlessly but never meet up, despite us both living in London. He reminded me of an ex I had had and so I was instantly intrigued by him. I suppose there is some need to make sure that the effort would be worth while so WhatsApp does play a part in getting to know someone better. Its quite disappointing, lessons learned. Nobody here has mentioned Scammers! Not all of them but some of them?
Just wasted 6 weeks chatting to someone on Wattsapp. Only met up twice in all that time. I realised that over a few days I had started to invest more than him, while he was slower at getting back and evasive about meeting up. Have you come across the term being benched? or breadcrumbing? Well wattsapp is a perfect tool for men to do this.
Listen to the gut and detach fast. If he wants to chase he can but from now on only on the landline or in person. Being curious, and smelling a scam, I agreed. The highlights are, 2 weeks in no scam evident. She Did ask to go to whatsapp, why? The writing accent sounds very foreign. I did ask for a photo with time and date which w a s angrily refused and offended.
Her public facebook page looks a bit dodgy. Oh, yeah, a Google search on the name reveals many facebook approaches with the same messaging on older guys??? Is it just phishing? These Whatsapp request are always suspicious. I have been on line with a person that eventually wanted me to buy things for him. I of course refused and deleted him. I told him that he needed to figure out a way to prove it or I was gone. He says he wants to marry me we have never met….
BLAH BLAH… I honestly have a hard time believing any of it. This has been going on so long for me. Years in fact! I have been in long-term real relationships included a marriage.
We did not meet on a dating site though. It was a social media group we were both members of. He got in-touch through the messaging app of the social media platform as he had noticed we are from the same town.
We moved over to WhatsApp as per his suggestion 2 months into messaging. I liked it. I decided to surprise him with a visit. This was 7 months into knowing each other. That freaked him out. We carried on chatting, even whilst I was in the place he lives at the moment BUT he said he was not mentally able to see me because of his situation which he had told me about in great detail during messaging.
RED FLAG 2,right? The very next month I was nearby again on holiday with family. Anyway, chatting continued. Then I think he rekindled or tried to things with an ex gf. I genuinely believed that would solely bring up any posts we had in common. BUT NO!!! However, at some point nearly all affection disappeared from his messages.
Anyway, fast forward to now. I am going to insist on a video call very soon. We have never done that. I am also going to insist on meeting in the coming months. But i keep thinking- if i wait just a bit longer. I also get very upset if I see him online late at night but that he is not reading my messages as, tbh, he usually messages me at that time.
I worry he is now doing the same with others. Thanks for reading if you have got this far. Glad I am not alone in this strange predicament. It has opened my eyes to what I have been foolish enough to do for so long. Even back then, there was a lot of people posturing and telling lies. This was still considered a purely educational, government and military network at that time. Add all the public in starting back in and push it forward another 30 years. What I mean by that is, you want a winner?
You need to be that winner that will attract a like minded person. A lot of people lie on the Internet, it could be something small or something really big. I also want to warn you, scam artists and others of the criminal element love WhatsApp because it can conceal their true identity.
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In her coaching practice, Sasha helps smart, successful women and sensitive, self-aware men get clear on what they really want and then to achieve their goals while always helping her clients focus on core issues such as self-worth. In Dating, Beware the Whatsapp Relationship or Excessive Texting! what a brilliant image for this book. Stop the Texting Madness Course Interest List Want to learn the skills you need to stop getting sucked into pointless, time-wasting Whatsapp and text pseudo-relationships and move on with your life so you can meet someone who wants a real relationship?
Thank you! You have successfully joined our subscriber list. Sue on September 8, at pm. Oh my gosh, Sasha…Love this. Yassine Zouaoui on October 16, at pm. Isabel on May 3, at am. Andrw on January 3, at am. Lynette on December 8, at am. Just need someone to talk or go out on a date or talk on whatsup Reply. Laura on March 20, at pm. Hey same Reply. Laura Merrick Farley on March 20, at pm.
Sasha on September 8, at pm. chris on May 6, at pm. Look for a full girlfriend. Carol Hoffman on May 25, at pm. Sasha on May 26, at pm. Oli on October 14, at pm. Michele on March 10, at pm. Great post though Reply. Austin on September 10, at pm. Its all about the chase Reply. Gemini on August 10, at am. Clare on February 6, at am. Because they want pictures. Clare Ryan on February 6, at am. Mona on January 31, at pm.
If you find out please let me know!!! Barbara Val on September 2, at pm. Debi on September 8, at am. he always cheers me up on August 18, at pm. the whole thing is so strange Reply. Aaron on December 1, at am. Let him in he wants you connect and be happy Reply. Niamh Jordan on October 10, at pm. Subway on February 11, at am. Your wasting your time. dazer on June 11, at am. who are you to say who she should like and what she should do lol Reply.
KIMBERLY E PRESTON on June 18, at pm. I agree. Age is just a number. Lucy on May 4, at am. Emma on September 8, at am. Get out of that situatuon, he is fooling u Reply. If you like, you can even create your own group and add contacts to it. Active group conversations can get messy quickly. If you want to reply to a specific message, you can tap and hold on it and a menu will pop up.
The person who sent that message will also get a notification that you replied to them. The important part here is to keep that conversation going. That topic will only get you so far that. To avoid ending up an innocuous study buddy, try to broaden the conversation.
Talk about your social life a bit and see how she responds. As with most text conversation in dating, how she responds is going to tell you so much right here. Something that diffuses the conversation rather than continuing it. I think I can still taste the tequila from Saturday night! GIFs are such an underrated part of dating in general. In fact, if you catch yourself stressing over how to introduce yourself to a girl on WhatsApp, this can be a great place to start.
Using them is simple. via GIPHY. I have a terrible memory, so this is another WhatsApp feature that I love. Now if you want to double-check when and where the date was set for, you can check this list instead of scrolling. Another feature that my goldfish memory loves is just how easy it is to add something to your calendar. All you have to do is tap that underlined text and select Create Event. Very handy. Sometimes you just want to add some emphasis to parts of your message.
Used creatively they can be entertaining. This is another place where WhatsApp shines over something like iMessage. Use these to your advantage to really highlight something important or add a little humor. That place looks fancy, I might have to put on some pants bust out the new blazer for this date! Another helpful feature of this app is the fact you can delete messages.
One deletes it from your phone, the other deletes it for everyone in the conversation. You do have to do this within seven minutes of sending it though. WhatsApp can be a great app for sexting as well. You can send and receive messages on your laptop for easier back and forth.
It also allows for GIFs, stickers, photos and video so you have plenty of options available. Some playful teasing is often a good way to start and see if she responds in the same way. If she does, let things escalate slowly. So don't dive straight into a booty call message and wonder why she suddenly stopped responding. Women, even more than men, enjoy the tension and excitement of slow and steady escalation. What you should watch out for here, most importantly, are signs that she wants to sleep with you.
Sexting is great and all, but it's possible that your sexual chemistry is limited to Whatsapp. From confidence when talking to women to confidence in the bedroom , this is something that almost all women appreciate. Learning how to talk with a girl on WhatsApp is about confidence, especially when it comes to sexting. You have to be willing to take that risk, steadily increase the tension and push your boundaries together. Learning how to project this confidence is a necessary skill in all forms of dating.
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With default settings, she can see when you were last online and when you read her message. Nothing says sexy quite like sexting between other conversations. Instead, save it for night time. To be really effective, you can drop hints and slowly build tension throughout the day. Any photos that she receives will go straight to her camera roll and, subsequently, iCloud. If dating multiple women at once is your thing, this can be something to watch out for on your phone too.
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It is surprising that anything surprises me when it comes to dating and relationships. I find it surprising that I can still be surprised.
Yet with technology making our world so incredibly new I can. Beware it. My ex and I broke up a few months ago, and since then I have been dipping back in the dating pool, mostly in Buenos Aires. In my last few months of reaching out sporadically through OkCupid or Tinder which people do use in Argentina, Tinder more than OKCupid , I have found a pattern. We start messaging, and then, the other person asks for my Whatsapp to communicate.
This story starts with a man I met a man on Tinder. If you are an intuitive person, you can tell a lot from a face. We started messaging and it was delightful. He asked beautiful questions. The kinds of questions that I dream of men asking, because really, I think all we want in a relationship is to be known.
To be seen. To be cared about, yes, loved. He would send questions late into the night, and each question brought an exciting ding. So this was fun, it almost felt like we were falling in love like that famous promise that you can accelerate intimacy by asking and answering the right questions, and then, you will fall in love.
But that idea presupposes eye contact. After a couple weeks, I realized I was the only one trying to make the virtual actual. Dates, we would call them. In-person meetings. Getting to know each other in the flesh? Although we did meet three times and had a great time on each occasion, I was the only one initiating the dates. And it became increasingly impossible to meet in person. It was very strange. Just not that into me? I never could tell. Honestly the whole thing is a mystery to me still.
I met a new friend from Singapore for dinner and shared my bewilderment. She confessed something similar had happened to her. She met a man, an American who often traveled for work, and she saw him three times in the course of a year.
For a whole year, they sent messages every day. She felt they were in a relationship. A friend intervened after a year and she woke up to realize, This is not a relationship. My now ex-boyfriend a real person who likes real meeetings! I need to find another man like him! gave me a thoughtful birthday present: Modern Romance , a book by the standup comedian Aziz Ansari. Ansari, like me, likes to observe and analyze how technology is changing our dating and romance patterns.
Ansari teamed with my friend Eric Klinenberg, the NYU sociologist who wrote Going Solo and interviewed me about Quirkyalone: A Manifesto for Uncompromising Romantics for that book to write a well-researched book on the agonies and ecstasies of dating in the age of technology. My eyes were glued to the page when I read their chapter on dating in Buenos Aires.
As part of their study of dating in Buenos Aires they found that men were often carrying on several text conversations with women, and women were doing the same.
Everyone was hedging their bets, including people in relationships, flirting via Whatsapp to keep their options open. The portrait the book paints is one of low-commitment game-playing enabled by texting. For the most part it seemed chillingly and accurately described. The situation is extreme, but the situation is extreme in many places.
No text buddies please. We are all spinning tops now, spinning with email, social media, phone notifications, and the world is spinning so fast, where does it all lead? When the world keeps spinning faster, what happens to our basic human needs for authentic connection, help, and love? Will a percentage of the population just go for these false-intimacy, buzzing-dinging relationships that provide a dopamine hit of excitement but never a hug?
Are these just the virtual frogs we have to kiss on the diligent search for something real, substantial, live and in the flesh, built on time and love? That give perfect textual satisfaction…and nothing else?
In my recent story, I found it so bizarre that this man was texting me all the time with questions, and yet, he lived about a mile away. This was not a long-distance relationship that required texting. For about a month I found his messages thrilling, but also unhealthy to have my body get so revved up by the addictive dings, with no bodily contact to soothe, ground, connect us.
I learned something very valuable years ago: You want the people who want you. I need more from a man than Whatsapp. A lot more. A female Argentine friend and I reached the conclusion that we need to carefully screen. Like the guy in his Tinder profile said, no text buddies please. While I am part of a few online communities that are important to me, and those relationships are meaningful, when it comes to my closest friendships, family relationships, and my partner, I know those relationships all take time and energy to cultivate in person, on the phone, or via Skype somehow seeing the face does make a big difference.
We who want authentic connection should be careful to not waste the time and energy on an illusion built through addictive dings on our phones. Do you want to stop getting sucked into pointless, time-wasting Whatsapp and text pseudo-relationships and move on with your life so you can meet someone who wants a real relationship? You are not alone. Tell me a little about you, what brings you here, and what you want to focus on, and we can assess whether we are a good fit.
Given how big this problem of the text-only relationship has become, I may create a course around learning how to get off text and into a real relationship that gives you real-life tips, skill-building, and scripts to move a conversation and meeting—so you filter for the people who can give you what you really want. If you want to take this course, let me know by entering your email address here -your interest will motivate me to create the class!
Want to learn the skills you need to stop getting sucked into pointless, time-wasting Whatsapp and text pseudo-relationships and move on with your life so you can meet someone who wants a real relationship? Enter your email address here if you are interested in being informed when this course is ready. So crazy! It reminds me of when I was in a long distance email love affair about 5 years ago with some guy I think I met on match.
He lived in Alabama or something, but we had great emails back and forth for months. When I suggested meeting up somewhere, I never heard from him again.
Dont feel bad. I have caught other people searching numbers etc online also pretending to be a totally different person. Chances are you were talking to a very old man, married, maybe even a year-old lesbian lesbian with genius writing skills. Who knows. Ohhh and then i actually drove a huge distance to meet a man who demanded exclusivity after a 2 week telephone romance. The guy was a total creep.
Possibly a psycho. I am positive he was living off another woman as he left me in the middle of the date to talk for 30 minutes. One awful date and some scary weird conversation that never happened over the phone Because his crazy was somehow Obvious in person but not at all over the phone and the spell was broken. I wonder how many of us who have been on the search for love online or on our phones have had that experience?!
In real life, if a guy gets rejected, we usually just slink away, and take it more personally. Hey Sasha. You may be right with regards the guys not wanting to be rejected, but I think it goes deeper than that. I think the main problem is commitment. In real life, if I fight with my wife I still have to sleep in the same bed … and rightly so.
You have made a commitment to each other, for better or worse, richer or poorer etc. It really keep options open. But not really because the woman ur texting are doing the same thing.. Theres really no end game.. Its all about the chase. its a terrible thing if they ask. But eventually we met and it was fine.
But I think they want the pictures and the fun of texting back and forth. However still confusing. This is true, have been in a casual relationship with a younger man for two or three months now. We were colleagues years ago and I contacted him about job opportunities. Any way, Whatsapp away. Every day, Good morning, good night, blah blah.
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I also want to warn you, scam artists and others of the criminal element love WhatsApp because it can conceal their true identity. Maybe you even have it installed and use it to message a few friends. who are you to say who she should like and what she should do lol Reply. Our Favorite Ways to Text a Girl For The First Time That Works. Laura Merrick Farley on March 20, at pm. But i keep thinking- if i wait just a bit longer.or breadcrumbing? What you should watch out for here, using whatsapp for online dating, most importantly, are signs that she wants to sleep with you. i explain politiely that i want to keep talking on the app and that i m interested in them, and they without excption so far just go away. He reminded me of an ex I had had and so I was instantly intrigued by him. Very Snapchat-esque, you can add text, take a short video or snap a photo and it will expire after 24 hours. That makes the bio a bit tougher.